There's only one thing I hate more than being the bearer of bad news (hint: it's Donald Trump) but I feel I need to warn you lot: not everything is gonna be smooth sailing all the time. When we think of going through struggles, we may often think it relates to our financial life. But that’s just one element, if an important one, out of many that can go wrong at any one time. Sometimes it can be an emotional problem or a traumatic experience you’ve been through, a breakup or a loss of a family member might fall into this category.
Sometimes, it could be that we feel just a little put-out and like we’re living life on autopilot, and it takes compassion as well as dedicated effort to ensure we come back with the most wholesome vantage point. Getting back on your feet after tough times needn’t be considered an overwhelmingly difficult challenge - you can achieve it. However, it does require a little self-care, the willingness to be patient and to try more than once should this uphill battle seem a little tougher than you were expecting.
Your willingness, coupled with the following advice in this article, should help you get back up on your proverbial feet in no time at all. You’ll even stand stronger this time:
Getting Back To Order
Ordering your life is an important measure to keep on top of, but it’s very easy for us to fall back on our obligations and struggle to match that speed once more. Getting back to order can mean different things for different people. For some, it may mean finally attending alcoholic’s anonymous, or contacting long-lost family members or perhaps moving back home due to employment prospects drying up in their current area.
Whatever order means for you, it’s important to seek it. It could mean finally shaving your beard off and cutting your hair as well as investing in another professional suit for job applications. For some, it may mean quitting their chaotic and stressful job to give them a semblance of normalcy without a particularly toxic corporate culture keeping them down. No matter how you define it, getting back to order is the fundamental measure you need in order to structure any future decisions.
Finding Your Schedule
Finding your schedule is important. Waking up at the same time every day, leaving the house at the same time each morning, keeping on top of your emails, structuring job interviews, or perhaps changing from part-time to full-time work can help you manage a regular routine. This can help you plan your life effectively, even if that means contributing to mealtime Sunday efforts in order to save time throughout the rest of the week. If it works for you, it’s likely a reliable scheduling habit.
Opening Your Mind & Heart
It may sound cliche, but opening your mind and heart to the new possibility is often the first consideration to prioritise. You need to believe that things can get better. Thankfully, this doesn’t require self-deception, and that’s because things can actually get better if you let them, or open up the space to.
You need to believe that you may fall in love again, or that you can connect with your family once more, or that a great friend is only around the corner. You need to believe that despite the issues you have faced, you can always be proud of yourself and you’ll learn plenty about who you are via going through this process. We are never defined by the hardships we face, but we are defined by how we react to them, even if our ‘correct’ reaction is a little delayed in its visibility.
Finding Those Who Count
Finding those who count, perhaps coming back to your family or old friends can really help. We all need positive social surroundings, and without them we can easily fall into our own bad habits, or worse, become influenced by the bad habits of others. Find people who are always focused on healthy living, on believing they can rather than believing the world owes them a living. You will begin to adopt these attitudes in the right way.
It can also sometimes be that when securing work or making the right moves to get back on your feet, you’re still coming up short. For example, you may have gained rightful employment with a very attractive wage, only to realise your first payment is only six weeks in to the job. When you have things to pay for now, this can seem frustrating. This is why Buddy Loans exist, allowing you to use the financial stability of someone you trust (and who trusts you) as stable backing for a cash injection you need. Perhaps one day you can also provide this to someone in your life who needs it, perhaps not in a matter of emergency but a relevant and humble situation such as yours.
Staying Persistent & Humble
The best advice you can ever be given is to keep your head down and keep moving through the hard times. Winston Churchill once said ‘If you’re going through hell, keep going.’ This is a profound statement only made truer by the national struggle he was leading at the time. Staying persistent and humble are two of the most important practices you could ever consider.
Persistence is important because it prevents you from giving up. During the times you feel like you can’t go to work, or when you are tired, or when you lament over past questionable decisions or the direction your life has taken, you can keep your head up and think of a better tomorrow. After all, we can only ever be defined by who we are now, and if you show persistence in this moment you are a persistent person.
Humility is important because we all need it, but also because getting back on our feet requires the ability to see what went wrong the first time and to learn from that. When we know how vulnerable we can be, we’ll work towards our strength with less of a self-deluded quality of mind.
With this advice, we hope you can adequately get back on your feet after tough times. You deserve it.